Slut shaming is not okay.
Virgin shaming is also not okay.
Having lots of sex with one person is good, if that’s what you want.
Having no sex with anyone is also good.
Having lots of sex with lots of people is good.
Any kind of sex/kink/whatever is okay as long as it’s completely consensual.
Sex positivity is not and should not be about shaming those who choose not to have sex. It’s about battling stigma against sex and related topics, fighting misinformation, and just generally helping people to be more chill about the whole thing.
If sex is a big deal to you, that’s okay.
It’s also fine if it’s not a big deal.
As long as everything you do (if you do it) is consensual and informed, and you don’t shame other people for their consensual, informed sex or lack thereof then we’re cool.